Why do some women always have men pursuing them, no matter what their age? I have a friend who is 74 who continually has interesting successful men asking her out. When I grow up, I want to be like her. She has sparkle. She has charm. She is a man magnet.

Recently, I asked a popular man magnet what some of her strategies were for attracting men, and research substantiates many of her points. Here are five secret tips to help you attract the man you want:

* Stand in the middle of the room.

Whenever you go to a party, try standing in the center of the room. (Don't hunch your shoulders, slouch, or wear a pair of shoes that hurt your feet so much you can't stand to stand.) Move around a little, talk with people near you, but if you want to be in a position to choose who you want to meet, never sit down. Stand smack dab in the middle of the crowd. When you see someone interesting, move near them--gracefully-- and start a conversation.

* Stand at the corners of the bar.

If you are at a bar, pub, or nightclub, staying at the corners of the bar is a good position. It's easier to meet people there. Bartenders tend to talk to the people at the corners also. The worst place to be seen is hanging out near the wall or sitting at a table or booth with other people. You are more difficult to approach if you are in a huddle with others. Go places with friends, but break away from them periodically and talk to people on your own.

* Look your best.

This may sound too obvious, but you never know where or when you are going to meet someone. Never go out of the house without looking your best. Even if you are headed to the gym or a run around the block, put on some lipstick and comb your hair. Know what colors you look good in, and wear attractive clothes in your best shades. Men are attracted to pink-peach. That color is flattering to most skin tones. People are also attracted to you when you are wearing the color(s) of your eyes. (You have multiple colors in your eyes--choose clothes that include one of those colors.)

* Be aware of your body language.

Body language is everything. Smile a lot, look people in the eyes, and when you see someone you are interested in, tilt your head, drop your eyes, and then look back at him. This may sound contrived, but it helps to know what subliminal messages are being sent by your actions. Apparently, giving your hair a slight flip is also an attraction signal, as well as stroking the inside of your arm or your neck. If a man is standing across the room, this is one way to let him know that you would be interested in talking to him.

* What not to do.

Attractive women know not to: talk about themselves non-stop, fold their arms, chew gum, pick at their nails, jiggle their foot, or crunch ice. All of this behavior suggests anxiety, frustration, or poor manners. Also--don't talk about your Ex. That is a major turn off.

When you go out and see attractive single men you want to meet, practice the above five secrets. Being a man magnet simply means that you are in control of the outcome of your evening, your week, and your life. Enjoy the adventure!

Tonja Weimer

Tonja Evetts Weimer is a Master Certified singles relationship and life coach, speaker, syndicated columnist and author.

Tonja is a full time professional coach with a practice in Greenville, SC. She helps individuals, especially singles, re-craft their lives and find happiness and success in their career and relationships. Some of Tonja's professional activities include:

==> Syndicated singles relationship columnist, writing SAVVY DATING, a weekly column read by over a million readers in many U.S newspapers. Tonja's column addresses relationship and life issues of interest to all adults, but particularly to the over 110 million singles in the U.S. Tonja has also had articles published in New Woman, Hope, and House Beautiful magazines, and has won 3 Matrix Awards for her writing.

==> Motivational speaker, Tonja has been a keynote presenter at national and international conferences over the last 30 years.

==> Author of materials for educators and parents (7 books, six music albums and 2 videos), which have won 22 awards.

Some Speaking and Media Highlights:

==> Keynote speaker for 2004 Women’s Issues Network Conference, Sumter, SC.

==> Keynote speaker for 2002 Parents as Teachers International Conference, St. Louis, MO.

==> Keynote speaker for 1999 International Conference for Children & Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder.

==> Keynote speaker for 1998 European Education Conference, in Mannheim, Germany.

==> Keynote speaker in 35 U.S. states at educational conferences.

==> Presenter at the International Special Olympics in Notre Dame, at the request of Eunice Kennedy Shriver.

==> Created Space Songs for Children, at the request of NASA (album taken into space by astronauts three times.)

==> Appeared on CNN’s Showbiz Today and many other TV shows.

Educational and Professional Qualifications:

==> National Fellow (U.S. Dept. of Education.) M.A. in Human Development and Education, with an emphasis on creativity.

==> Master Certified Singles Relationship Coach, Relationship Coaching Institute.

==> Personal Life Coach, Graduate, Institute for Life Coach Training.

==> Member, International Coaching Federation